What are your priorities

So I have a friend who is torn about her barn. The good things about the place are she's close to her house, and the care of the horses (feeding, shoeing, turnout) is pretty good. The facility is also nice, it has multiple outdoor arenas and one large indoor arena. Also hosts a large amount of shows during the season, so my friend would not even have to leave the property to show. The downsides are the trainers. She has a green horse who needs a lot of work and the trainers just aren't willing to put in the time or effort to help her improve and train her horse. They also are not transparent in any way about their training. She has been lied to multiple times about what is going on, never knows who is riding her horse, and the trainers are NOT open to other disciplines or alternative methods (like natural horsemanship, alternative therapies, etc). So she is pretty torn about whether to stay or go. There aren't a lot of options in her area, and moving would mean switching disciplines most likely.

For myself, first and foremost, I put Arwen's care ahead of all else. There are things about her care I can compromise with, and things I can't. Like food and water-if she wasn't getting that on a regular basis, I would be gone. But if the facility is maybe a little run down but serviceable and I liked everything else about it? Okay...thats probably something I could live with.

Second is training. I do have certain goals but if my current trainer wasn't meeting them in any way, was lying to me about pretty much everything and wasn't willing to try different things, I would be looking for a new one. If there wasn't one available in my discipline I liked, well, I would probably try a different one, even though it didn't mesh with my goals. I don't feel like I'm in any kind of time crunch. I bought my horse to enjoy her, not to push myself to achieve something. That isn't how I personally measure my success with her because lets me honest-I'm never going to be some super star rider. I know plenty of people who say they wouldn't ride if they couldn't show. I think thats ridiculous. Would I get bored if all I could do is trail ride? Possibly, but I would also get a lot of joy out of just being with my horse. I know some of my favorite days with Arwen have been when we aren't doing anything except hanging out together.

At what point do you draw the line? Make compromises? Leave the barn for a new one that might not be as nice a facility, but has everything else that meets your criteria?